I can’t do what I need to do for my happiness, what do I do?

I’m in a quandary. I need physical contact including hugs and kisses, but don’t have access to people who want to have physical contact. As you might imagine, this causes me problems. I need physical contact on the regular, and right now I’m at one for 2021 and not looking any better for 2022.

I try to sublimate my need for physical affection by massage, but TBH that is a poor substitute for the exchange of physical affection. It’s better than nothing, but that’s not saying much. Ramen noodles are better than nothing but living on just the noodles long-term will result in malnutrition, and substituting massage for acts of physical affection will result in the emotional equivalent of malnutrition. And the causes of both are pretty much the same, one is the inability to buy and prepare nutritious food, the other is the inability to find or hire someone willing to provide the kind of physical affection that maintains sanity. Money cures many forms of insufficiency.

And this is kinda short but the post is degenerating into a pity party and nobody wants that.

One response to “I can’t do what I need to do for my happiness, what do I do?

  1. I went to boxing gyms and practiced fighting with other men, then we fought, and it felt great. I would let my wife know people punched me on her behalf; bad news is it didn’t take me down and I punched back – she’s gonna have to do better next time. Jujitsu is a great low impact way to get that personal contact time in with the upside of learning how to defend yourself. Wish there was an easier path but God knew we were tough, so he made things hard.

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